00015 My afternoon tea

I was having my nice afternoon tea at one of France cafe near Orchard. A group of middle age man and girls came in later and sat on the tall chair next to my table. Together with my friend, we sat on short chair. One of girl was wearing mini skirt and she was sitting facing to me. After a while enjoying their coffee, she found that her underwear was exposed to me. She quickly cover the opening using her two hand. My neck force to looking at one direction which it won't cause me expose to that special item.

中午在烏節路，我和一位朋友到法國咖啡廳享受星期六的下午茶。我們點了一個咖喱三文治，一塊蛋糕，咖啡和姜茶。閒聊中，隔壁一桌來了一群男女。他們坐在比我座位高的椅子上。我們則坐在角落間。其中一位面向我的女生剛好穿著迷你裙。因為她座墊的水平和我的眼睛的水平是一樣的，結果她的內褲就曝光了。後來她發現我的眼觀一直不敢看向她，才發現她露底了。結果她就一直用雙手遮著，我的頸項卡在一個方向…囧。和我一起的朋友還直接說還好他沒看到。

 

00014 The Last Friendship 最後的友誼

來了新加坡這兩年，回去吉隆坡的次數十根手指頭都不夠數，其主要的原因都是朋友的婚禮。每一趟的旅程，花車費，買機票從來都是自己淘腰包，當然住宿更不用說。當然也有朋友也盡地主之誼，租下旅館。每一次這樣的回去，都會在吉隆坡呆個至少兩天三夜。經常性的去吉隆坡，有一些在新加坡的朋友就以開玩笑的口吻問我，這樣的回去值得嗎？如果今天換是你在砂勞越美里擺喜酒，是否這一些朋友也會像你一樣自己買機票，租旅館來你的婚禮？

我感到很茫然。我真的不知道多少個人真的會為我這樣的去付出。這樣的問題問多了，我就告訴身邊的朋友，參加婚禮只不過是給自己一個理由回去度假。

我一直都在問，這些年建立的友誼，經過歲月的洗禮，有多少又會真正是身邊的好朋友？多少朋友又在成家立業後；那個友誼因家庭的存在而退色？這種朋友婚後孤單候群症對身邊單身的朋友特別有感觸。當身邊朋友一個一個開始有了自己的天地後，或許＂你＂已經沒有存在的意義。或許別人的歡樂聲已經不會在和你共享。

或許每一次的回去都是為了看最後的友誼。享受那種即將逝去的關係。

 

I has been going back to Kuala Lumpur for my friends' wedding more than 10 times since I moved over to Singapore. Most of the times I have paid for my own flight ticket, bus ticket as well as my accommodation. Normally I will stay over there for about 2 days 3 nights. Because I travel quite frequents, some of my friends will ask me it is worth to travel like this. Let said this turn is your wedding in Miri, Sarawak, will your friend do the same things to you as well? They will buy their own flight ticket and accommodation just for your wedding?

Honestly I don't know who will do such things to me? Who will did the same things I did for them before. When such a question keep threw to me, I told my friend, wedding is just a reason for me to go back to Kuala Lumpur for holidays.

I did question myself for several years, the friendship I built, how many will retain after many years. Who will stay with me after many years? How many friendship will remain even though the status is different? When one of your friend found his or her the other half, the friendship bond between us will getting weak. Our "existing" may not seem important to them anymore. They happiness may not agains share with us.

May be every time when I go back to Kuala Lumpur, I am trying to enjoy the last great moment of our friendship before it end without my knowledge.

 

 

 

 

 

00013 給自己的一封信

阿忠，

前幾天我給你媽媽撥了一通電話，和她聊聊天。由於最近工作非常忙碌，我想我也有兩個星期沒有和她閒聊了。電話那一邊的她顯得很開心。你媽媽跟我聊了很多事情。許多關於親戚朋友的近況她都細細的對我說。我們有的沒的聊了二十分鐘。

後來我隨口問她你弟妹的情況。她忽然靜了下來。她告訴我家里最近靜得很。你大弟換了一份工。為了節省開消上個星期他們倆夫婦搬離老家，到你弟媳公司附近住。你也知道小弟買了然房子，放工後，就忙著粉刷他的新家。夜了，他都在新家過夜。你和你妹妹又常年在外地工作，甚少回家。家里只剩下你爸爸和你媽媽。爸爸媽媽週日忙完工作之後，都會覺得家里特別的靜。媽說少了幾個人在家，不會再這樣的熱鬧。

我聽了也為你媽感到難過。以前孩子小的時候還留在家，可能兄弟姐妹多，多少都會吵架。有時真的巴不得他們全部搬出去。如今，孩子大了，開始離開家，那種舍不得的感覺開始涌出來。人很多時候就是犯賤。擁有的時候不珍惜，失去了才明白其可貴。
我和媽聊了好久，放下電話的時候，她吩咐我告訴你常拔電話回家。老人家不會告訴你他們有多想你，但是他們的行動卻告訴你他們還是愛你的。
好了，不多說，就此停筆。

阿忠

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00012 生活

忙碌的生活，有時候會很懷念不用上班的日子。
把身邊的工作放在一邊，忙裡偷閒，自由自在的活動。
不需要在乎別人如何看待自己，只要這個時刻開心。

00011 學習

前一陣子，公司里的工作特別的忙碌。我差不多週日天天加班到晚上七八點鐘。那一些曰子情緒也非常緊張，經常處於高壓狀態。我一個人除了要負責結構設計，預備報告還要兼顧同事繪製的平面圖。這一忙，也讓我的身體狀態一直往下滑。過度的壓力，曾一度讓我想逃避。

終於把手上的工程設計初步的完成，也呈交上建屋局核審。這個時候我終於可以透透氣，恢復我過往的生活時鐘。這一陣子我也開始重新思考我個人工作的能力。重新思考赶工的日子，如此這樣的工程我也無法承受其壓力，那就更不用說要一個人擔當更大的工程。就以我的上司來說，他所承受的壓力肯定比我大，然而他卻很坦然的面對。在面對問題的時候，他都非常積極的面對和處理。那不慌不亂的態度，就是我所缺乏的。

經驗使一個人可以更加成熟，也讓人更加積極的面對生活的挑戰。今天臨下班前，我留了一句話于我的同事。趁年輕，好好的裝備自己，盡量從別人的經驗中學習，這樣才不會走冤枉路！

00010 Trip to Shanghai

朋友看了上海的照片，很多都會說一句話：＂你難得會把自己包裹的緊緊＂三月的上海，恰好是春季的中段。氣候仍然屬於寒冷。記得第一天抵達上海的時候，天氣非常的晴朗。早上的天氣，非常清爽。氣溫接近十多度。然而因為有陽光反而不覺的特別寒冷。接近中午的時候，我開始覺得酷熱，逐漸把外套脫掉，剩下一件衣服。別看冷風陣陣，不怎麼樣，但是陽光依然射傷我的皮膚。
沒有體會過四季的生活，三月在上海旅行也算是不錯的體會。享受在寒冷的天氣里，享受熱騰騰的咖啡，享受呼一口氣，可以看到蒸汽，享受穿上棉衣，走在大街上。

Most of my friend will said: wow, we hardly see You wearing shirt with sleeve! When they view my Shanghai picture. It was middle of spring when I visiting Shanghai. The daily temperature was just around 10 degree plus on the first day I arrived Shanghai. The weather was nice on that morning, even with sun light, I never felt hot. I took off my jacket during the noon time.
I never experience before how four season country life is. Therefore I enjoy this trip. I enjoyed having a cup of coffee in the cold weather, enjoyed wearing sweater and walked on the street. I wish that in future, I can visit Shanghai agains.

攝於2011月3月17日

00009 wifi @ Shanghai

上海旅行的時候，每一次要上網查看信件的時候，都要會到酒店把電腦連線到wifi。回來新加坡之後，把照片上載到面子書的時候，朋友提醒我原來上海到處都有wifi。一個公共電話亭都有wifi設備，讓那些旅行的人突然就方便起來。這個提醒，也提醒我原來生活里很多時候，我對周遭的環境並不敏感。一些朋友就是喜歡說我眼睛是公雞眼。
一個國家可以吸引遊客，其中一個原因就是其設備。如果一個國家可以為遊客提供一些基本的設施，遊客肯定對這個國家留下美好的印象。一個國家不需要把自己打扮成聖誕樹，告訴別人他有多美。給別人留下美好的印象，就足以提高遊客流動量。

When I travelled to Shanghai, everyday I had to go back to hotel get the wifi service so that I can check my email. After I returned to Singapore, I posted some picture on my Facebook. A friend of my reminded me that there is wifi service everywhere in Shanghai. There are wifi service at public telephone area. This make those who travel around without 3G service more comfortable as people can access to Internet to get the information they want. This incident had remind me that I'm not sensitive to my surrounding. No wonder some of my friend like to tease me as I have cock eyes.
A country can attract tourist into their country partly because of their facility. Tourist will have a good image about the country they visit and willing give commentary to their friend. This will help to increase more tourist into the country.