SG0014 Why Quarrel…..

今天我比平時早到達我的家（其實也不早，只是15分鐘而已）。下捷運的時候，在出口看到一對夫婦。丈夫帶著兩個女兒在捷運站的出口等著他的太太。 太太一見到丈夫就嚴厲的責問丈夫為什麼按掉他的電話。丈夫告訴太太說他不小心按到其他的鍵，所以無法聯繫到太太。我看到火頭不對勁，就匆匆的從他們身邊離開。到附近的水果攤買了我喜愛的橙就準備回家。回程中又經過這對夫婦的面前。兩個人在一旁抽煙。各自隔了一段距離。我隱隱聽到丈夫這樣對太太說：“難得帶孩子出來等你，你一見面就吵架。”我看到孩子在捷運的出口旁兩個人獨自的在玩耍。

回程中，我在想為什麼兩個人就是不能好好的坐下談談。做太太的為什麼一見面就用責問的語氣來和丈夫對話呢？如果電話無法接通，為什麼就不能再撥第二次？做丈夫的為什麼在不小心按掉太太的電話時，為什麼不能再撥一次電話給太太。

很多時候事情可以很簡單的處理。只是很多時候我們放不下我們內心的主權。我們很多時候就是認為自己完全對。我們處理事情的時候，就是要讓對方完全處於下風。要對方感到他完全錯，我們才能完全的罷休。或許我們認為我們戰勝了，但是往往把事情搞到亂七八糟來收藏，也顯示出我們是多麼愚蠢和沒有智慧。

學習冷靜的處理事情。事情都要他的兩面性。不一定都是不好。不同心態去面對，結果雖然一樣，但是你得到的感覺卻截然不同。同樣的一句話，不同的語氣，解決是事情雖然一樣，但是結果不一定一樣。

I reached Yishun slightly early than usual （15minutes early）. When I was at the exit of the MRT station, I saw a couple there. The husband brought their two daughters here to wait their mum who comes back from work. The wife who first saw her husband was spoken in loud queries her husband why turn off her call. Her husband told her that he accidentally presses the other button and the line was off. It seem like something going to happened, I quickly move over and went to buy fruit nearby. In the return, I saw them again. Both of them smoking and stand apart from each other. I heard the husband said: “ I seldom brought our children out and you once meet out want have row. I saw two little children playing alone at the side.

On my way back, I was thinking why both of them can’t really have a good talk about it. Why the wife must talk in such a way with her husband. If the line was cut off, dial again. It is not a big problem. If the husband accidentally presses the wrong button, why he can’t call back to his wife? Many reasons behind which I don’t know what were it, but the thing is why both of them just can’t talk properly before start quarrel with each other?

Things can be simple and it depend on to us how we solve it. A lot of time, we just can’t let go our ego. A lot of time we use to thing that we are right all the time. We want to make the opponent felt embrace at the end, only then we satisfy. However we never know that we use to make the situation getting worst and the relationship between us with the other people getting worst and worst.

We should learn how to put down our self. Solve the problem in calm. Same word, express in different way, it solve the same problem but it bring different result.